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(2020·青岛模拟)
If a family member blames you for something you have done, it is important to be careful about how you defend yourself. It is not a good idea to use ways that cause hurt, even if they would help you make a valid point. If you can think of an instance where the other person has done exactly what they accuse you of, for example, it would not be good manners to throw it in their face. You should only bring it up if you don’t have a choice. Then, you should make sure that you do it respectfully.
Even if a family member intentionally goes against reasonable wishes you may have, you should understand that people see even the most fundamental things in very different ways. Remember that people are different. If you consider any noise after midnight to be intolerable, for example, others may see it is completely acceptable. It can take them a great deal of time to change their behavior for a demand that they do not understand.
Think about the family conflicts that you are worried about now. Check to see if your parents had similar problems. People who grow up with parents who fight unfairly often repeat the same behavior. Consider changing the unfair habits that you grew up with.
Understand that memories tend to change. In long-standing family disputes, all parties involved tend to have completely different recollections of the original problem.
Families are a curious concept — while family members often feel nothing but annoyed for one another, they will also often be there for them if they should ever be in serious trouble. When you feel resentment for someone, think about how far you would go for them if they happened to be in trouble. It could help soften you. Think about how you care for the other person.
【文章大意】本文是一篇说明文。文章主要介绍如何明智地解决家庭冲突。
1. Which of the following does the author agree with according to the first paragraph?
A. To fight back to defend yourself.
B. To target the problem, not the person.
C. To deal with a man as he deals with you.
D. To hurt each other when angry.
【解析】选B。推理判断题。根据第一段If you can think of an instance where the other person has done exactly what they accuse you of, for example, it would not be good manners to throw it in their face. 可知如果家庭成员指责你不应该这样做, 而你却回想到他/她以前也这么做过, 这时候讲出这件事打他们的脸则是不礼貌的做法。从而可以推断出, 我们要就事论事, 不针对个人。故选B。
2. What does the underlined word “resentment” in the last paragraph mean?
A. Curiosity. B. Kindness.
C. Concern. D. Anger.
【解析】选D。词义猜测题。根据文章最后一段while family members often feel nothing but annoyed for one another, they will also often be there for them if they should ever be in serious trouble. 中的annoyed提示, 和后句think about how far you would go for them if they happened to be in trouble. It could help soften you. 请想一想: 如果他/她陷入麻烦, 你会怎么做? 这会让你缓和对他/她的态度, 从而可以猜测出resentment为“怨恨”之意。故选D。
3. Which of the following statements may the author approve of?
A. Family members share the same memories over family disputes.
B. Parents should set a good example in a family.
C. It’s easy for people to agree on different ideas.
D. You can defend yourself by throwing facts back.
【解析】选B。推理判断题。根据第三段People who grow up with parents who fight unfairly often repeat the same behavior. 可知, 如果父母总是争吵, 在这种情况下成长的人往往也会重复同样的行为。从而可以推断, 父母应该在家庭中树立一个好榜样。故选B。
4. What is the best title of the passage ?
A. Think about How You Care for Other Persons
B. Learn to Concern about Family Members
C. How to Deal with Family Conflicts Wisely
D. Learn to Accept Each Other in a Family
【解析】选C。主旨大意题。根据第一段If a family member blames you for something you have done, it is important to be careful about how you defend yourself. 和全文内容可知, 文章主要介绍如何明智地解决家庭冲突, 故选C。
【知识拓展】长难句分析
People who grow up with parents who fight unfairly often repeat the same behavior.
分析: 这是一个含有定语从句的复合句。第一个定语从句who grow up with parents修饰先行词people, 第二个定语从句who fight unfairly修饰先行词parents。
翻译: 那些在吵架的父母身边长大的人经常重复相同的行为。
