A Few Tips for Self-Acceptance
We all want it... to accept and love ourselves. But at times it seems too difficult and too far out of reach. Where do you start? Here’s a handful of ways that will set you in the right direction.
·Stop comparing yourself with others. Do not follow the people who make you feel not-good-enough. Why do you follow them? Are you hoping that eventually you will feel empowered because your life is better than theirs? Know that your life is your own; you are the only you in this world.
·Forgive yourself for mistakes that you have made. We are often ashamed of our shortcomings, our mistakes and our failures. Remember, you are only human. You will make mistakes, time and time again. Rather than getting caught up in how you could have done better, why not offer yourself a compassionate (有同情心) response? “That didn’t go as planned. But, I tried my best. ”
·Recognize all of your strengths. Write them down in a journal. Begin to train your brain to look at strength before weakness. List all of your accomplishments and achievements. You have a job, earned your degree, and you got out of bed today. Nothing is too small to celebrate.
·Now that you’ve listed your strengths, list your imperfections. Turn the page in your journal. Put into words why you feel unworthy, why you don’t feel good enough. Now, read these words back to yourself. Feeling upset again? Turn to a page in your journal to your list of strengths and achievements. See how awesome you are?
